Wondering where this crazy, raw, real and un-censored website came from?

We are simply 4 everyday women on the verge of something great. We all come from different backgrounds and have different skills and talents. None of us have any idea what our individual greatness is YET but we each have the heart, the spirit, the determination and the balls to seek it out and grab it when it is right. We wanted to create for ourselves (and anyone else who may want to play with us) a safe place where we could escape and not be judged. Not to mention this is WAY cheaper than therapy.

The main reason for doing this so that maybe, just maybe, from one of our postings about something whether it be an experience, a statement, a rant/bitch, a hot tip, something playful or abstract that if not one of us someone out there will find their answer.

Care to join us?

Here’s a look into the girls behind “Where’s My Damn Answer”:

Kristy Nuttall

My name is Kristy Nuttall and I’ve been journaling for years and love having it as a place to share my life and learn from others. It really is a great way to broaden your horizons. I grew up in a small town – Visalia, CA. I lived there for the most part from the time I was 5 and left as soon as I could at 18. Small towns are great to be from, but as a teen trying to find yourself, they are not great to live in – especially when your family knows most of the town. You go on a date and by Monday morning everyone knows what movie you saw and with whom and where their family lives and … well you get the picture. So not for me.

At 18 I moved to sunny Southern California and landed on both feet in the beautiful town of San Clemente. I loved that beach town and sometimes wonder how the heck I could have ever left. I met a guy (as all of us do) who had a job (not a horse) and fell in love (or what I thought was love at the time). We got married and when he got a job that required us to move, we did. That landed me in the ever popular San Fernando Valley :: rolling eyes ::. At first, I was afraid to even go out once the sun went down – haha. LA was terrifying if your only vision of it was what you saw on tv. I eventually got over that.

A few years into my first marriage, we adopted a beautiful baby boy (now lovingly referred to as The Boy). I now know that HE is the reason I was meant to be with my ex. Eventually the marriage crumbled and the ex left. The boy and I were pretty much on our own from the time he was about 2 until he was around 8. I dated lots of people and used to joke that I was the “equal opportunity dater”. I wanted to be sure to define what I DIDN’T want so that I could find what it was that I really wanted in my life.

Finally I found Ron – the love of my life. It really was “just lunch” but it turned into so much more. We met online and we chatted a couple times and talked on the phone for a few minutes. Both of us had dated online enough to learn that really, it’s better to just do the face to face to see if there is chemistry. We both had plenty of let downs. So we meet for “just lunch” and the minute I sat across from him, I was a nervous wreck. Needless to say, we were connected from the very first minute we met and married a year later in Cabo San Lucas barefoot on a beach with our closest family and friends there sipping mojitos. In 2007, Ron adopted Zac and now we are all one big happy family. It’s awesome – I love being married to my best friend.

As far as business goes – I’ve ALWAYS been creative. In 1992 I left my day job to follow my creative passion in my own jewelry company – My Little Pretty.  I sold designs in stores throughout the US in Mexico and Canada.  It was a great business with plenty of growth until the market crashed – haha.  Then I had to rethink things.  I took a part time job that lasted four hours.  I came home that day and told Ron that I couldn’t work for anyone again.  It was time to go into web design.  The next day, I had four new clients and we haven’t looked back.

Being a web designer is great since our son is a basketball junkie with aspirations to play college basketball.  There are plenty of times you will see me at practice working on my laptop or ipad while he’s getting better.  The flexibility of this job is perfect for me … and I’m REALLY good at it too .  Stick with what you are good at … for me it’s being creative and thinking outside of the box .

Today … I’m still trying to find something that I can’t truly define. Sometimes I think it’s a form of enlightenment, others I think it’s just trying to find a way to not kill someone. Either way, I’m on a path SOMEWHERE to do SOMETHING . I guess that’s half the fun though … not knowing what’s around the next corner.

jodycakes

Jody Stevens is brought to you by the letter “J” – as in jovial, jokester, jaded (sometimes), jack of all cakes….

Chef/Owner of jodycakes – Jody uses the left side of her brain for her cake creations…the right side seems to have frequent traffic jams…but eventually the cars get through and she has the creative A HA moment and finishes each project with bravado.

In her personal life, she is surrounded by the most excellent cast of characters…including a mother who has moved into the dating world after almost 40 years (asking too many questions of how it’s done – how bizarre…).

Jody is considered warm blooded furniture by her cat Katy, who she affectionately calls “The Beast”.

Jody loves GREAT food and considers the bazillion cookbooks that she owns, her own private porn stash.  The perfect dessert can bring her to tears.  She also loves great wine, truffle pigs, Dutch & Scandinavian Trance Music, and 80′s music.

After reading Eugene Ionesco’s play, Rhinoceros, in high school, she began a lifelong obsession and collection of rhinos – her most prized one being an old Avon perfume bottle from an antique store.

She hails from Denver originally but has roots in Houston, TX.

One final note – Jody collects the phrase “Where is Mr. Potato Head?” in different languages…to date, she is up to over 40 different languages!

Cathy Wohlberg – Craig

My name is Cathy Wohlberg Craig and I confess – a writer I am not.

But what I am is a 41 yr old woman trying to navigate my way thru the rocky seas of amazing and God gifted life.I was born and raised in Southern California the San Fernando Valley to be exact – I went to SDSU where I studied Public Administration with an emphasis in HR and Sociology.During my “5” year stint at SDSU I became not only a founding member of the Delta Gamma Sorority (fraternity) but a very proud and active member.At first I did not buy into the whole Greek thing of “lifetime friendships” but I am hear to tell you that almost 25 years later that is exactly what I walked away with and truly treasure from my time at SDSU.

After college I was lost – I was the only kid in the family that did not have a clear career direction.So what does any lost child do but go into the family business, which in my case was the commercial flooring industry.I admit it was not very glamorous and certainly not what I had (or did not have) in mind as a profession but I soon discovered that I was damn good at it.During the next 11 years, I worked for my Father, got married and sat front and center on an E ticket ride like no other.

In 2000 my Father retired and I along with a couple partners took over the company.I was partner and President of a 12-15 million dollar a year company.The rush that came from that time in my life was amazing.I could not spend the money fast enough and we were the talk of the town….. Then in 3 short years (you knew this was coming) it all changed and very fast.Actually, truth be told what really changed was ME.I realized that I was not living – I was merely existing to make everyone else happy – everyone except myself.I was FAT (over 200 lbs fat)/ conflicted / lonely / married to the wrong man and trapped until one 24hr period changed my life and I never looked back.

Let me back up a few months … by the end of 2003 I was done – mentally and physically and I wanted out of the business.So I left.I walked away from what was my whole life – everything that I thought defined who and what I was – The money – The “Family” business all of it.It took everything I had just to get out of bed in the mornings and when I finally did I thought why, what is the point?So there I was not just out of work but out of an Identity and living a marriage with a man that was clearly not my match.

Back to that life changing 24 hrs:

In that short period of time I: celebrated my 38^th birthday, asked my then husband for a divorce and the business that my family built with such passion and dedication over a 40 yr period had imploded.Yes after I left, my partners just could not make it work.WOW I thought the show “24” has nothing on me.All I could think for a few days was now what?Somehow that statement was liberating as the “now what” could be anything that I wanted it to be.

The next chapter in my life (or as my Dad says my New Season) had begun and I was ready to embrace and welcome it with open arms.In, as I call it, my “quest for clarity” I got a few surprises and learned a number of things along the way.The most important thing was I learned to “own” my sh*t. That’s right I take full responsibility for the place I was at and my participation in getting to that place – That was a biggie!I also learned that I matter and that there is nothing wrong with having needs and wants.Over time I began to regain my self confidence as well as watch those LBS melted away and I am now a happy size 8 (still struggling with the actually seeing in myself the weight difference.)

Additionally 3 huge things happened to me: I found real love for the first time in my life and I have developed the first 2 of what I hope are many passions:

1) A passion for working to help small business owners grow and flourish – especially WOMEN

2) A Passion for Food and WINE!!!Now granted food had obviously been a big thing for me but I changed my brain about food and I am sure I am the only person around who was able to loose weight by walking on the treadmill watching the Food Network.

Fast forward to present day – 2008

• Married to the Man of my Dreams
• Developed a wonderful and spiritual faith and belief
• Loving and Learning about Food and Wine Daily
• Learned how to be human, ask for help, finally admit when I am maxed out and I have learned how to allow people to see the real me.Now that was a hard thing for me as I did not even know myself for a long time who I was.
• Blessed by wonderful and amazing friendships
• Working weekly with Woman to inspire, help and support woman in their professional quests to grow in their business and in their lives
• Part of this Killer web site
• Finally feel personally successful and satisfied
• Identified my true strengths and weaknesses. I am no longer embarrassed by them. I don’t need to cover those up anymore.All part of owning it!!!
• Have accepted and embraced the “unknowns” (hard for a control freak like myself)

BUT (you knew this was coming) I am still searching for professional satisfaction – My life is like a puzzle and I have most of the pieces in place however some of the key pieces are still missing.My search is on for the answer.What is my purpose, what am I meant to accomplish, what gets my juices flowing and where can I make a difference.

lindaloohoo

i’m the 45 year old survivor of a whacked out childhood, wife of an amazing man and mom to two boys – a three year old son adopted from guatemala & a twenty four year old birth son, reconnected for about three years. my three guys are the light of my life and i am the luckiest woman on the planet to share space with them. i was a vice president for a large music entertainment company before leaving to be home with our ‘monkey.’ hubunit is a firefighter paramedic by way of usc architecture school and marketing exec for disney. he’s well rounded. in a career sort of way. i’m happily un-hip and make no apologies for my rampant inappropriate-ness. here at casa lindaloohoo, we take the chi chi out of chic and put it in a big blue party barrel from target . . .