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Monthly Archives: September 2010

Some Girls . . . do.

I’m part of a local mom’s club.  They let me in before anyone knew me and now they’re stuck with me.  And I’m grateful that they still speak to me because it’s hard for me to make friends.  Strike that.  It’s hard for me to keep friends.  But they love me even though in my application to join I put that my favorite thing about being a mom was getting to carry a purse large enough to have a Go Diego Go potty seat with me at all times.

Then our mom’s group started a book club.  Which I love.    Cause we all bring food and alchohol and sit around talking about the book we just read.  Wait.  You may already be familiar with that concept since that’s what a book club is.  But as much as I’ve always loved to read, I’ve never been part of an organized book club, so it’s exciting for me.  Except that I’m loud and obnoxious and I always end up shouting at someone because they didn’t have the same reaction to the story that I did.  I really don’t play well with others. 

This month our book choice is Some Girls, My Life in a Harem by Jillian Lauren.  And it’s a loaded book, so I have really been looking forward to our discussion about it.  Only now, the author is going to be there.  At our little book club.  Errr.  Fuck.  This is a recipe for disaster.  And not just because it might be boring uncomfortable for this woman to enter the world of the suburban housewife in AWESOMETOWN.

The upside is, by the end of the book, I really liked this woman.  Or girl.  Or whatever she wants to call herself now.  Me?  I’m more of a gal.  That’s sad, right?  But try as I will, there is just no girl left in me.  Or style.  Which Jillian Lauren seems to have in spades.  She appears to be a gutsy chick with loads of the kind of style that appears effortless and which no matter how much I try, I can never achieve. 

Take today for example, where I was the only woman at a midday babyshower who chose to wear high heeled black boots.  Awwww man.  I’m guessing Jillian wouldn’t have done that.  So I’m reserving judgement until after I actually meet her, but she may need to become the voice in my head, just like Peggy was for her.

If you haven’t read the book, you should.  I’ll admit, I was a little put off in the beginning.  Cause ya know, other people’s selfishness is so annoying.  Not like your own, which makes perfect sense and can actually be quite interesting.  But the more I read, the more of myself I saw on the page.  Plus I absolutely loved her dedication to her husband - love redeems all.  I think that’s what it was.  Those are powerful words right there.  And I’m thankful that I know exactly what she means when she says it.

In the end, I think it’s a story about a gift.  The gift that knowledge and experience and time and love bring us when we finally realize that we don’t have to be defined by our choices.  We can allow them to be what we’ve done, not who we are.

So mostly, I guess I’ll just sit in the corner with my plate of bacon and try to keep quiet.  Cause I don’t want to have to throw down in front of Jillian.

I’d like my light to turn green now, please.

The road to happily ever after is a long one.  Think Harrison Ford looking at Anne Heche in Six Days, Seven Nights and breaking it to her that they are likely to be stranded on a desert island for, ya know, a LONG time. 

Along the way, in amongst the easy, no potholed roads that wend their way thru fields of flowers, there are some treacherous, mountainy (probably not a word, but forgive me anyway), sheer drop off kind of roads.  Some roads have lots of turns, mostly U turns as my Navigation system enjoys reminding me because I’m an idiot and keep forgetting how to shut that floozy up.  Possibly a fender bender where you cause SIX THOUSAND DOLLARS worth of damage to your car without even spilling your cup of coffee, or a fullblown multiple vehicle incident that can change your life forever.  But, that’s a post for another time. 

Currently, Hubunit and I are at the adoption mile marker on our road.  And the adoption thing is like that road in San Francisco that is impossibly bent.  I know.  That road seems an improbable route to happily ever after, but still, we are on it.  Mostly because it’s worked for us before.  Which, to a sane person, would seem to imply that we should count our lucky stars and leave well enough alone.  But, never having been accused of being sane before, why start now . . . 

Yeah, except I’m tired of waiting.  I’ve done my part.  After all, I convinced Hubunit to jump on board AND we’re still married.  I spent hours, days, weeks, months poring over the internet, researching countries, ages, glimpsed photos of waiting kids and built entire lives for them out of the figment of my imagination.  I returned over and over to the Guatemala government’s adoption page and stared at those spanish words, willing them to miraculously scream, we’re open again.  I slowly adjusted the dream and started to find myself drawn to Hungary.  Well, first I had to find it on the map and then I daydreamed about it alot.  I looked at more photos of kids with medical issues, cleft palate, missing fingers, club feet and knew in my heart that we could accept a child like that into our hearts and our lives.  I filled out reams and reams of forms.  I bared my soul to the social worker, well, and the fingerprint person.  I emailed, photocopied, faxed, scanned and FedEx’d till my head exploded. 

And now?  Now it’s hard for me to understand that Europe takes August off.   Oh yeah.  The whole continent closes up shop and goes on holiday. 

Huh.  Don’t they care that Monkey tells everyone he meets that we are trying to get a new baby brudder or sister?  That he is saving his toys in a pile for them to play with since he’s convinced that even a baby sister will already love Pokemon.  Or that he was saving left over food for the new little one, cuz who doesn’t want half of a three month old PB&J?

Surprisingly, I am not a patient person.  I really need to work on that.  In the meantime, if you have one of those thingymabobbers that can turn a red light green with just a tap of the button – you’re my new best friend.  Seriously, you need to share that thing now.  It’s good for your soul.

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